This month we are going to look at another life giving coaching tool : The Reframe
To reframe means to shift focus or to shift position in order to gain a different perspective on something. Reframing also goes as far as giving new meaning to a past story . This is useful when you’ve been holding onto a story in your life that pulls you down. Maybe something happened to you in the past and the way you interpreted that circumstance has left you believing a lie about yourself...
For example, you failed an exam in senior school, which pulled your whole average down. This meant you could not get into the uni course your heart had been set on and so you believed that your only option was to pick something else because you believed that you simply were not smart enough for the course you truly desired to pursue. Later on in life other opportunities for study or promotion came your way, yet you continued to hold onto the lie that you are not smart enough. So going forward, you continue to turn new opportunities down. This way others won't find out that you are really not as smart as they think you are.
Reframing is a beautiful tool I learnt about in my coaching training. Simply put, it is the gift of pinpointing the false belief you have about yourself and then taking a step back to view this lie from an elevated vantage point. Reframing has the potential to throw doubt to the lies you've believed about yourself, and also to bring clarity, to open your eyes to a new point of view. A true point of view. When you are able to see the lie and can reframe it with the truth, your mind is renewed and your whole world begins to change.
You most certainly have the capacity to do this reframe in your own strength, without God. However when you do it alone, you run the risk that the new reframed story you are telling yourself about yourself is not grounded by a firmly founded truth. When you try this alone it goes something like this: "Okay, so I've believed the lie that I'm not smart enough. Now I need to convince myself that I am actually smart - I just have to keep telling myself I'm smart and if I say this often enough, maybe I'll begin to believe I am smart (...when I don't really believe it at all!!!)". We try to convince ourselves at best that we are okay. And this my friend will only bring temporary relief, or maybe even further damage. Reframing without God can risk adding confusion, or even worse, condemnation, shame and guilt.
1 John 4:1 ESV Beloved, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God, for many false prophets have gone out into the world.
Yet, when we reframe our old beliefs using the truths we have personally found in God’s word when searching out our true identity in Christ, we can be assured of a true, holy and enduring “God-reframe”. We can swap out our lies with truths that are sure, real, firm, secure, everlasting, and yes, undeserved.
In keeping with our example: Your story about not being smart can be replaced by this truth: "I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength."
Here are a few scriptures that help to shine light on the fact that our own thoughts are not always true and that the absolute truth about us is found in God's word. These scriptures highlight the fact that His thoughts and ways are far greater than ours!
Open my eyes to see the wonderful truths in your instructions. Psalm 119:18
Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take. Don’t be impressed with your own wisdom. Proverbs 3:5-7
For the Lord grants wisdom. From his mouth come knowledge and understanding. Proverbs 2:6
I will teach you wisdom’s ways and lead you in straight paths. Proverbs 4:11
Because of God’s tender mercy, the morning light from heaven is about to break upon us, to give light to those who sit in darkness and in the shadow of death, and to guide us to the path of peace. Luke 1:78-79
Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank Him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4: 6-7
God is the giver of clarity, wisdom and truth. He shows us His way of seeing things. He shows us His perspective- which all too often is very different from our own.
His perspective is the truth, the one we can trust, the one that has our best interest at heart, the one that will bring you peace beyond understanding. He loves you and longs for you to see yourself the way He sees you. He longs for you to reframe the lies you believe about yourself with His truth about you.
For you to live the life that God planned for you to live, you must see yourself the way He sees you!
If this is something you struggle with, don't shrug it off in belief that you are not enough and nothing will change! Click here >> for help to see yourself the way that God sees you.
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